Going into fantasy suite week on “The Bachelorette,” Rachel Lindsay had three good-looking suitors to choose from ― but not a soul more adored by fans than Peter Kraus. The 31-year-aged silver fox from Wisconsin won over Bachelor Nation early with his sweet nature, indeniable favourable looks and easy connection with Lindsay. Her final rose seemed to be his for the taking.
But during a rough fantasy suite date, Kraus looked ready to bow out of the race altogether, telling Lindsay that he didn’t expect to be ready to propose whether she picked him at the stop of the season. Instead, he said, he’d want to preserve dating in a serious, committed way. Lindsay, who has repeatedly emphasized that she came on the present to find not a boyfriend, but a fiancé, countered that it was very famed, renowned to her to build up engaged.
“I didn’t approach this far and establish my life on hold … to just maintain a boyfriend at the stop of it,” she told him.
During the painfully awkward conversation that followed, the pair grappled with one of the central absurdities of the present: For most of us, engagement is the final step toward planning a marriage, but on the present it’s simply the first step in an exclusive, committed relationship. While most contestants and leads choose to buy in, Kraus still isn’t certain approximately that final step.
“My hopes in pursuing a relationship beyond this point is with the thought that that would lead to engagement,” he explained. For him, he told Lindsay, engagement means “we’re getting married, let’s just way the time” ― and he only wants to finish it once in his life. She disagreed, saying that it would just mean “cultivating a relationship and seeing what you maintain and whether it can work external of that.”
The most real, and difficult, section of this clash came when the couple appeared to reach an deadlock. “A relationship is approximately sacrifices,” she told him, pointing out that one or both of them would maintain to bend on this issue whether she chose him at the stop. Kraus responded that he didn’t want her to give up on what she believed, but, well, he didn’t want to either. “We talk approximately finding a common ground,” he responded, “I don’t know what that is, with something that’s so polar opposite.” Finally, the two were left staring silently at each other, unable to approach up with a solution. Lindsay admitted in a side interview that she was “devastated” and unable to see a way forward for them.
There’s nothing more heartbreaking than an fabulous couple mutually realizing they want different things and can’t resolve that ― and it’s a particularly real moment to crop up on “The Bachelorette.”
Some weren’t having his hesitation, however, including Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe, who’s been engaged to her winner Shawn Booth for years and hasn’t yet planned a wedding:
Peter needs to realize that you don’t maintain to build up married right absent whether you’re engaged. It’s just approximately a commitment #theBachelorette
— Kaitlyn Bristowe (@kaitlynbristowe) July 25, 2017
— Co. Cue (@companycue) July 25, 2017
Others thought Lindsay should be the one to compromise ― perhaps a function of Kraus’ wild popularity among the fandom.
Peter is the best match for her but she’s too blinded by the goal of marriage fairly than waiting for the right person #TheBachelorette
— Lauren Foster (@LaurenAFoster1) July 25, 2017
— Stacey (@stayseamarie) July 25, 2017
Some more cynical members of Bachelor Nation had another theory as to Kraus’ motivations:
Peter: I’m not there just yet.
Subtext: I’m still negotiating my bachelor contract#thebachelorette
— Evan Bass (@ebassclinics) July 25, 2017
Say it ain’t so, bro! That said, whether we were forced to watch a full season of that gap-toothed grin on “The Bachelor,” that would be fine. Nothing’s certain yet, however; the episode ended on a cliffhanger, with Kraus’ fate still up in the air.